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Your relationships can elevate you to new heights or drag you down into the dumps. What if your relationship is pretty good, like a 7 on a scale of 1 to 10? Should you stay, openly committing to that relationship for life?

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Or should you leave and look for something better, something that could become even better? This is the dreadful state of ambivalence. Tough call. First, the book points out the wrong way to make this decision. The wrong way is to use a balance-scale approach, attempting to weigh the pros and cons of staying vs. There will be pros and cons in every relationship, so how do you know if yours are fatal or tolerable or even wonderful?

The cons tell you to leave, while the pros tell you to stay. Diagnose the true status of your relationship instead of trying to weigh it on a scale. So discovering the precise nature of the disease seems an intelligent place to begin. Each question is explained very thoroughly with several s of text. In fact, the diagnostic procedure is essentially the whole book.

Each question is like passing your relationship through a filter. If you pass the filter, you proceed to the next question. In order to achieve the recommendation that you should stay together, you must pass through all 36 filters. If even one filter snags you, the recommendation is to leave. My guess is that out of the 36 questions, less than a third will require much thought. The author then watched how those relationships turned out in the long run. Did the person making the stay-or-leave decision feel she made the correct choice years later? If the couple stayed together, did the relationship blossom into something great or decline into resentment?

And if they broke up, did they find new happiness or experience everlasting regret over leaving? I found this concept extremely valuable, like being able to turn the of time to see what might happen. What about a long-distance relationship? Or a relationship with a workaholic who makes 10x your income? Would you like to know how such relationships tend to work out if the couple stays together vs.

So long-term happiness is the key criteria used, meaning the happiness of the individual making the Looking for long term lesbian decision, not the ex- partner. This book will help you diagnose the weak points of your relationship that could lead to break-up and allow you to consciously attend to them. These questions drive home the point that a relationship should enhance your life, not drain it. At the very least, you should be happier in the relationship than outside it. Even if a break-up le to a messy divorce with complex custody arrangements, Kirshenbaum Looking for long term lesbian out that in many situations, that can still lead to long-term happiness whereas staying in a defunct relationship almost surely prevents it.

Some of the diagnostic points might seem overly harsh in terms of recommending leaving in situations you might find salvageable. A relationship, however, requires the effort and commitment of both partners. You may find it revealing to apply these diagnostic questions to a broader set of human relationships, such as your relationships with your boss and co-workers.

Perhaps you can skip the sexual attraction one… but mutual respect, fun, shared goals, tolerable behavior, getting your needs met, etc. A proper diagnosis may also convince you that your relationship is indeed too good to leave. That situation may last your entire life, or it may change at some point. I have been with my wife for 15 yrs married for 5. Recently she has told me she is having some feeling ofbwanting to be cal with a man after all these yrs.

She has just turned 40 and this came along with her birthday. Ok me n my wife married 2. She likes to drink n come to bed playing her games. I go to sleep i dislike waiting up for nothing. Everytime i ask her abiyt showing affection she gets tired of hearing that. She says its her stamina he drive isnt hi. How can we fix this???? I left my kids dad to be with a girl I met online. I always knew i was gay but meeting this girl, that had the same interests as me called my attention. I broke up with my kids father in the most heartless way. She drives to come see me and ive went twice to see her.

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But our relationship has gone bad. Theres no communication. No trust. I am needy by nature and crave the attention I dont get from her. She is really controlling and everything needs to be her way. Talking on the phone and other stuff has to be whenever she wants to. It has been a year and we have fallen into this routine as if we were living together. No time spent at all. Time is hard for me because of my two kids but I also prioritize her along with them. I am not hers at all. I am so confused.

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She has told me she plans to move with me in less than 2 years. But it doesnt feel like those are her plans anymore. I dont know what to do. I feel like breaking up. But I love her. Or am I inlove with the idea of her and a relationship? I had no home there but just the apartment we both bought together. If am not mistaking her father is a famous lawyer to almost every rich person in Azerbaijan. She was going to help me get a job in her father law firm before she broke up with me because she was going to marry one of her father client.

All this was before i contacted Metodo to see what he could for me. As i said her father was against our relationship and she was going to marry a 53 years old man for his money. She has always loved materials things but i never thought she would pick money over me. We were still see each other not as lover but secret lovers.

I loved her too much to be sharing with a disgusting old man because he was rich. In my own case it happened that it was an old rich man wanting to take the woman i loved and still loved with all my heart and strength. I knew she loved me dearly but she was also in love with all the money and assets the man had. I know something was clear to me that whatever action i took was my last chance to win her back. There and then i contacted Metodo cos i had no money to travel all the way to Chad.

Now i can also truthfully tell you that Metodo is really something out of ordinary he is the greatest spell caster you can ever meet. He sent me some items that he told me to use to pray with within the 7 days he was casting the spell i asked him to help me cast with the materials he told me to provide to for the spell casting. But all those worried faded when Metodo sent the spell that looked like a powdery substances with instruction on how to make it effective.

She called off the wedding and nothing happened it was like no one cared anymore not the man or her parent almost like it idea was yipped of their head. Whether anyone believe me or not it does really matter the only thing i care to say here is that Metodo is the ultimate spell caster anyone can ever ask for help. Am going to leave his mail in case Metodoacamufortress yahoo. I pray God almighty give you the strength and wisdom to help more people having similar problem like mine.

This is my first relationship with a lesbian female. First and foremost, she needs to get help for her PTSD. When Looking for long term lesbian said earlier that she seems selfish, I meant it in the way that she is allowing someone else into her life, that she needs to be in a relationship, when clearly, she needs help.

I wish you the best and hope things look up for you soon. Thank you Allie. Apparently my partner and I are still together; however nothing has changed. We fight all the time and it tends to get ugly when I lose it. We are seeing a counselor for our relationship but we only had two sessions. She is caring as she wants and does everything for me but I take that as controlling.

I pray to god every day to get me out if thus situation as less painful as possible. I hate drama! I have a on fb with some wonderful ladies in the group that go through these kinds of situations, lots of feedback there. We only do what she wants to do; when I make suggestions they are Looking for long term lesbian out the window. There was time in our relationship when I would have done anything for her. Unfortunately I feel like her personality changed when she started strapping.

IMO…I think if you really love someone, showing them should come easy. I can relate to your story. I am in a married rel.

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